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Do we hold back who we really are because of what others expect of us?

There is something calming about familiarity in loved ones. What happens when our expectations hinder the journey of those we love?

We expect people to act or react how we are used to in the past. The truth is none of us are our past any longer. Granting each other freedom to grow, freedom from preconceived notions of who we think they are, freedom to be different from the past. This freedom is a tremendous act of love.

Think of things you used to like or dislike in the past. How have some of them changed? Maybe you like a certain type of food you never thought you’d try. Or a type of music you once renounced. It could be that your passions have changed, or expanded. Who we are is constantly changing, constantly growing. That is the beautiful and surprising thing about life.

We especially have a hard time with accepting the change of family members. We try to keep them in the same mental box we placed them in years ago. Let your family members know you accept and love who they are today, and who they will become tomorrow.

Release expectations and grant your loved ones freedom to continuously grow and change.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin

 


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10/28/2011 9:18am

Hello Wendy,

I agree that the name of the game (life) is progress or growth.
But on the other hand we are "wired" to resist change because we afraid from the unknown. I think we're programmed to be comfortable; "play it safe" so to speak.
We obsessively over analyzing pros and cons of change and at the end we just find more convenient to stay "stuck in the mud".
Another great share of yours
cheers

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10/28/2011 9:27am

@Akos-

That is so true! I know for me sometimes change is hard because it is often uncomfortable in the beginning. Every year I start to embrace change more and more.
I hope you have a great weekend!

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10/28/2011 11:50am

Hi Wendy,

Who we are is constant changing and we don't notice it so much when we look at ourselves. But if we look at our friends and family it becomes very visible.

The last decade I have been through a great change - other friends, other place to life, some friends have stayed. The biggest difference I have noticed is in my relationship with my family members - most are still the same and others have been through a growth as well. But we can connect - in other ways as before - and that creates love.

Thanks for remind me about that

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10/30/2011 1:56pm

last month when I went back to Romania was like a wake up call for me. After all these years I spend in US i never thought I'm the one that changed. I was pretty sure I'm the same funny, go with the flow girl 10 years ago. Meeting old friends made me realize how much I've changed and how much the society I live now in has influenced me.
Sooner or later everyone is changing.

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