Make Each Moment Count

09/19/2010

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Last night after the kids were asleep and I plopped down on the couch to unwind for a few minutes I watched a very sick child with cancer on the show Extreme Makeover Home Edition.  Looking at this child’s face you could vividly see the toll cancer had taken on his body.  Inside his spirits were bright.

The inspirational mother of this inspirational child expressed how this hardship has allowed them to enjoy the little moments in life when so many others do not.   It really hit hard and the tears started flowing, and soon they became more of an ugly cry, as Oprah would say.
After crying and recovering from what felt like a mini heart break, with so much compassion for what this family is going through, and admiration for their mind set, I started to get a little angry with myself.  Angry for the moments I waste and all that I often take for granted.  Angry for taking one single “one more minute Mommy” for granted.

I believe that if you listen, the universe sends you messages just when you need them.  Right now we are going through a little bit of a hectic time which I promise to share more of soon.  I have found myself getting stressed over things that in the grand scheme really are not that important.  I’m human and it happens.  However, the more I am fully aware and conscious of everything from my thoughts to my actions, to the words, actions, and needs of all those around me, the better person I can be.

I want to praise my children 10 times more than I correct their behavior.  No matter how frustrating a situation can be, and I’m guessing you fellow parents know exactly what I am talking about; I want to talk to my children in a patient and loving tone.  And not just my children and spouse either, I strive to treat everyone with this kind of love and respect.

I know I am not perfect, and I know I will mess up, but I plan to stay in touch with this feeling as best I possibly can, and to be fully conscious as much as I can muster.  Thank you universe for sending me a message I so badly needed, and reminding me that 99.9% of the things I get stressed or frustrated over just aren’t worth it!

How sweet each kiss must be when you never take for granted its worth!

 

So much more can be achieved when you don’t do things solo in life...

Who wants to join me in my goal of not taking life and love for granted, in making each moment count?  I could use your help.  Let’s do it together!

 
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Astrid link
09/19/2010 8:42pm

I want to join you, Wendy! Because I am super critical with myself, I expect so much from other people. So my poor boyfriend often feels like he is doing everything wrong and that nothing he does is good enough. I take him for granted so much. He cares about me, but all I can focus on is everything he doesn't do. It is something I need to work on, but I honestly have no idea how to change this way of thinking! At least I can acknowledge that I want to change. That is half the battle, right?

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Wendy Irene link
09/19/2010 9:46pm

@Astrid -

Thank you for your very honest comment! I know exactly how you feel, and have felt that way many times before. The further along in my relationship journey I go the more I realize that letting go of expectations that aren’t truly important as much as I can really helps with this. The less I 'expect' of my husband in terms of small stuff the more I am able to appreciate what he does. For example, if I expect him to buy me flowers all the time and he doesn’t, I’m disappointed, but if I don’t expect it, it allows me to appreciate when he does. Basically, don’t sweat the small stuff. From my experience the less you expect your partner to do things the way you would the more you allow happiness to come in from what they are doing.
Relationships are quite the amazing journey and a lot of the time they can be about helping each other to mature and be the best people we can be.
Recognizing where you want to improve really helps. When I get frustrated the best thing I can do is try not to look down on my relationship, but to focus on what I can do to be happier in it.
Expecting less allows you to appreciate more.

I hope this helps! I think you are doing a wonderful job and am so proud of you for really wanting to make the best of things. You CAN do it! I absolutely believe in you!

♥ Wendy

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Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) link
09/19/2010 11:40pm

I think this is a great goal to have and a good guide for living. I think it's easy to be swept up in the day-to-day and overlook the joys. I'm not the best at this way of thinking although I do try...when I remember to.

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pat
09/20/2010 6:35am

I'm in! P

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jessie lynn link
09/20/2010 5:14pm

I'm there lady! Some of the most happy moments can occur when one has finally accepted where their life has taken them and can find peace, gratitude and joy in each moment it offers them. XOXO.

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Wendy Irene link
09/20/2010 10:02pm

@Marilyn -

You are so right it isn't always easy to do. I have decided I am going to try my hardest to live this way as much as possible, and I try to be conscious of things that remind me and keep me on track. Have a great day!

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Wendy Irene link
09/20/2010 10:03pm

@Pat -

Yay! So glad :-) ♥

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Wendy Irene link
09/20/2010 10:06pm

@Jessie lynn -
Love that you are in, and love what you said!


Thanks everyone! I know we can do this together! :)

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kelly @kellynaturally link
09/21/2010 4:41pm

I'm with you! This is a lovely, and timely post. I'm trying desperately to be more peaceful, positive, forgiving, and thankful in my life - to my children, my husband, and everyone around me. Each day is a new day. We can always change.

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