That being said I am going to make even more of an effort to help out parents who are trying to do it all by themselves. It may be as simple as bringing the garbage can up to the house for a neighbour. Or going out of your way to get the door for the parent by them self with the stroller and kids. Definitely some kind words and extra patience for the parent with kids in the grocery store having a tantrum, because their little ones just don’t know how to communicate their frustrations yet. I think every parent has been there at some point, and it is not easy!
Although I don’t do everything perfectly, and happily don’t try to. I do try to keep the most important things in mind and to stay present and conscious to the best of my ability. One thing I think I have done well is not take my husband for granted. Hopefully he would agree J! I am completely aware of all the things he does to help out, and appreciate it. I try to say thank you as much as possible, because a lot of the things he does, he is doing for the whole family and it means a lot to me. Being aware of all that my husband does do for us definitely makes it a little overwhelming when he is gone.
Normally in my day, I try to take a minute to myself at some point, even if that minute is while I am cooking. For the next little while anyway that is going to have to wait until the kids go to bed, and even then there will be a lot of things to catch up on without the help.
I am so grateful for my time with my children, and not because it is always easy. Even when it is tough they have the ability to shine a light on the areas you can grow. Their ability to teach me is amazing. Any areas you need to work on for personal growth are much clearer when you have children and they force you to face them. It may be your patience that needs work, or your mental strength, or the ability to follow your instinct even in conflicting moments, especially when it comes to their wellbeing.
My children have helped me to become better at all of those things, a huge blessing! They can also act as a mirror. You know when their undesired behaviorsare simply a reflection of your own, something you may have never thought to work on until that moment of realization.
Being a Mom is so amazing, so hard, and so full of meaningful connections. Parenting alone whether it is for a short while or a lot longer only amplifies all of the above, leaving the ability for growth to blossom even more rapidly.
If you have children, what is something they have taught you?