I believe the answer to the question is yes. What you fill your mind with becomes your reality. If you constantly think about what frustrates and upsets you, then frustration and upset become your reality. In turn if you think about what brings you joy, then happiness becomes your reality.
I don’t mean to make it sound like a black and white issue, because I have yet to meet someone that never thinks about anything negative. Sometimes thinking about something that brings up negative feelings for you is necessary in sorting it all out. And lots of the time, that is exactly what we are trying to do; figure it all out.
How far do you take it? Say you are replaying an event in your head that you don’t feel good about, or maybe something you said or did that you wish you could have done better. Thinking about and realizing that it may not have been the best choice is beneficial. It helps you to learn and make better decisions next time.
However, if you allow yourself to dwell on it, you are creating an increase of unhappiness in your life. Pick a point in your reflection where you realize that the further in-depth thinking about it is not benefiting you. The negative thoughts are circling and for the time being not getting you anywhere. That is the time to intervene, and move on to a new focus.
Depending on the situation or event, and some may argue your sex; this can be much harder to shut off at certain times. There is where thinking of happiness as a muscle comes in. It is something you need to practice at, and strengthen. For most of us I believe this comes with hard work and time. You have to be ready and willing to put the effort in, and the rewards once you do are endless.
Sure genetically, some of us are born with stronger muscles both physically and metaphorically, but YOU have the ability to make your own muscles as strong as possible depending on the work you want to put in. The great thing about working on the happiness muscle is that it is fun, uplifting, and some rewards can be felt right away.
Don’t let yourself be consumed with negative thoughts. When they happen make a point to be conscious of them, and actively make the decision of whether or not they are serving a purpose, or if you are just creating more misery in your life. People who fall in love with meditation, in my opinion use it as a tool to be conscious of their thinking and as a way to use their mind to heal, love, and strengthen them. Meditation is one tool of many, and finding ways that help you push out negative thoughts, and refocus on positive ones is the best way you can start working on your own happiness muscle.
Your life is right now! What you are thinking about right now is your reality. Make your reality beautiful. Focusing on the good doesn’t make you ignorant of what is happening in the world, it only makes your world more beautiful!
What are you thinking about?♥